Looking for the best Tinder Opening lines and conversation starters?
Here are 25 real first message screenshots we've sent on Tinder that got responses... so you can do the same.
We've found that the best first messages on Tinder are personalized to her, rather than using generic copy paste lines.
It's easier than you think, too. So let's dive in to the examples.
1. Commenting on the quality of her images.
She had no bio and generic photos. But, she used filters which looked like something out of a film.
If you notice that her images are really high quality (look cinematic) or are shot with film, comment on that. She'll appreciate your eye for her creativity and aesthetic.
2. Compliment her interests... not her looks.
Her profile said she loves being complimented... and has a great taste in wine.
Put them together in a Double reference that shows her I actually read her profile? It's a clear winner.
3. Make a Pun from her bio.
She said, “no one night stands, I have enough furniture.” She punned, I punned, I referenced her pun, bam.
Using puns based on something you see in her profile always works in your favor. Always.
4. Talk about her dog. Or what's easy.
She’s got that dog in her profile photos for a reason. Comment on it!
You might think that all guys are doing the same. The truth is, they're not.
Most guys are saying "hey what's up" or asking for "Netflix and chill."
Comment on what's easy. No reason to make it difficult.
5. Comment on her spicy tastes.
She mentioned that she loved spicy food. If you appreciate the same stuff she does, let her know.
This hits things off by finding common ground between yourselves.
6. Play off of her first message.
I made a pun based off her first message. She liked it and fired back.
You know you have a great Tinder bio when she messages you first about it.
Read more: Making a great Tinder Bio.
And you find that a lot of women message you first or reverence the same stuff in your profile.
So, have jokes or puns lined up.
7. Reply to a challenge in her bio.
Her profile mentioned she wont share her pizza.
Make life easy and play with her challenge. It's a great way to flirt.
8. Hit her with a Guy Fieri Gif.
There’s no ice breaker like a Guy Fieri gif, especially when it references something in her profile.
9. Comment on her photos at a cool location.
The best opening lines on Tinder reference something about her and something about you.
You want your message to bring both of you together, right? So start things off right away in your first message.
10. Comment about an interesting line in her bio.
Her profile mentioned Never Land.
There's an easy, and dark, joke to be found here which I took advantage of.
Don't make your conversations on Tinder too safe. Taking risks usually pays off.
11. Mention the pop culture references in her photos.
Her profile included a picture of her with a cardboard cutout of Obama, so I made a small joke about it.
But, the more important note here is my message was personalized to her. She knows I didn't copy and paste this. That's what matters.
12. More Tinder Opening puns.
That classic tea pun based off her first message. Again, you'll notice a pattern with women who message you first. Have easy lines down pat to use when this happens.
13. Find the gif that fits her bio
Her bio said she was looking for guys with a good vibe, so I sent a gif of a vibrating fish.
I spiced it up by using a Gif in my first message.
Gifs are so powerful, you just need to make sure it's not a generic image of a cute dog or waving bear.
14. Take Risks.
One of her Tinder photos had her wearing a Hilary mask.
If you have a dark sense of humor, show it. Obviously, being overtly sexual isn't doing you any favors.
But if you're having fun and taking risks the conversation wont grow stale and she'll have a great time talking to you.
15. Find the pun that works for you.
That pun look familiar? Find the joke that works for YOUR bio.
16. Cut to the chase, start making plans.
She’s already interested, I’m already planning the first date.
Your #1 goal on Tinder is making the date happen. If she is this excited to meet with you, start planning for the date right away.
17. Compliment her fashion.
She was wearing a Corona sombrero in one of her photos. Again, all I needed to do was choose on somewhat interesting thing in her profile and make a little line about it.
You don't have to be the funniest guy around. You just have to be real, and personalized.
18. Pay attention to the oddities in her profile.
She listed her age as 89. That’s an invitation for a comment.
Take what's available. No reason to avoid the obvious. She just wants to know that you took the time to look at her profile.
19. Reply to her self deprecating humor.
Her profile mentioned that she’ll regret using Tinder. Again, simple, I just ran with it.
20. Mention that quirky photo.
She was wearing a fake mustache in one of her photos. Easy reference!
Not only did I reference that photo of hers, but I made a joke about me.
Again, the best lines on Tinder are related to her and you. Both. Even if it's just joking around.
21. Springboard off her photos into a fun topic.
She’s jumping in her last photo. Transitioned to a fun topic: super powers.
22. Pay Attention to the fun details in her bio.
Her school’s mascot was a slug. That’s amazing.
You can see how noticing something she cares about can result in her taking the time to write back an actual response.
Rather than just a boring one or two word response...
23. Reference her food choices - easy date idea.
Her profile mentioned brunch.
Seriously, what else could I say?
24. If her bio mentions that she likes something you do, play it up.
She loves musicians. I’m a musician.
Well, I am today, anyway.
25. Pay attention to the distance between you.
Tinder was telling me how far away she was. It was way too far away.
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