How to Message Girls with Boring or Empty Profiles on Tinder
Ever wonder how to message women on Tinder with boring or empty profiles?
We're going to break down 3 simple strategies you can use to overcome this and get her attracted to you.
After reading this article (or watching it!) you'll know exactly how to send opening messages that get her attention.
Why Don't Girls on Tinder Have Bios?
I want to both answer your question, and tell you exactly how to message a girl when she has a blank profile.
First, why do women have blank profiles anyway?
Here's the cold hard truth: it’s just not necessary for a woman to write a bio on Tinder.
The reality is, having a bio or not won't affect the number (or quality) of messages she will receive.
Most guys send boring messages either way.
While this might seem like a negative, it’s actually a positive.
There is a reason that the minority of men on Tinder get the majority of results.
And, like me, you’re going to be in that pool now (assuming you weren’t already.)
So, how can we effectively message a girl with no bio?
If we put ourselves in the shoes of women on Tinder, a common frustration of online dating is…
“No one actually reads my bio.”
“Everyone just wants to hook up.”
“All these men are desperate.”
It’s impossible not to think this.
Women receive a flood of impressional, boring messages from men.
To give you an idea of actual numbers, some women receive over 34 messages a day.
The vast majority of those messages will be variations of "Hey, what's up, hi."
And that's if they are lucky.
We had a female guest writer share some of her experience with Tinder.
The key to success is customization.
While Tinder is a numbers game, you can greatly stack the odds in your favor by putting in just a few minutes work of customization.
From Roulette to Poker.
The customization doesn’t have to be amazing.
She doesn’t expect it to be - especially if she isn’t putting in a bio to make your life easier.
I know what you’re thinking: how can you customize if there’s nothing in her profile.
First Message for Girls with No Bio Formula
The formula works like this:
Look at her photos.
Look at her location.
Look at yourself.
Looking at Her Photos.
Let’s start from the top: look at her images.
Choose something from it that “jumps out at you.”
Reference that thing in her first message - no matter how small or seemingly insignificant.
To make it even easier, we wrote a guide with real screenshots of successful Tinder conversations showing how to message women with boring profiles.
For example, here’s a girl with no bio and a boring picture.
But she’s at a pool.
So we can just come up with an opening line related to swimming.
Something as simple as…
How mad would you have been if I pushed you in the pool?
I’m down for swimming, but I’ll need to buy us new floaties.
My swimsuit that looks JUST like that. Forever 21 too?
All of these are related to her despite how boring her profile is.
I should also mention that in this real example she only have one photo!
But these lines will get her attention because they are customized to her.
And they involve both of you together.
And they show your personality.
This is a world of difference from the other messages she gets.
Look at Her Location
We can use the exact same strategy, but instead of looking at her photos, look at her location.
This is especially powerful if you’re traveling.
Make your first message in relation to where she’s from or living.
As Steve Brule would say, “It’s not- It’s not any more complicated than that.”
Look at Your Self
Finally, we have the easiest (and maybe the most effective) strategy.
Rather than looking at her profile, we can just look inward.
Not in a zen way.
Instead, just message her and reference something about yourself.
And do your best to relate her to it.
Remember, the best opening lines include both of you together.
Messaging Girls with Boring Profiles Video
To make things even easier, we recorded a full video showing our exact process for messaging girls with no bio.
I’ll reveal all my secrets for you to replicate in your own Tinder game.
Marc: Today I'm going to show you how to deal with those annoying profiles that you come across on Tinder where there's one or two pictures.
They're boring selfies and there's just no information in the bio.
A lot of times these girls will be really attractive to you and you just don't know what to do.
Because if you've been following Zirby videos, you already know that the best opening messages are ones that have personalization and are related to her, but in this case what do you do?
What do you do?
Are you stuck commenting on how cute she is or just saying hi, what's up like every other guy or is there another way for you to get through that barrier?
Well in this video, I'm going to give you three tools that you can use to do just that.
So the three tools are this.
One, the assumption.
Two, relating it to you.
And three, my favorite is what I call the party opener.
So with all of that said let's dive in and actually talk about the first tool for you to use which is the assumption.
The Assumption Opener
Now the Assumption opener is really, really simple and the best part is even though you don't have a lot of information about her, it still is related to her, it still personalized which is really great news.
And the best part about all of this is the assumption open that I'm going to show you here doesn't just work with online dating.
But if you meet someone in person that you don't know anything about, use an assumption as your opening message, their opening line when you go up and say hi to them and you'll be surprised to see just how effective it is.
So let's look at an example of what an assumption opener is.
Let's say that you're swiping and you come across a girl that looks like this.
Well right off the bat there's not a lot of information about her, there's just really a selfie.
But you can tell that she looks sort of creative.
So an assumption opener based on her could be something as simple as, you must be an artist.
So the next girl sort of looks like a librarian.
She looks more studied.
So what we can actually do here is rather than just say the assumption, you must be a librarian.
Which is fine.
It's still better than the other opening messages that other guys are sending we can make it even stronger by relating it to something going on in current events or to some meme that we found online or whatever.
Have you seen that meme of that librarian shutting down an entire group of protesters?
So that line is very simple, it's very linear, you know you can think step A, B, C, she looks like a librarian, here's something to do with librarians, it's that simple and it refers to something kind of funny if you haven't seen that meme.
Relate the Line to Yourself
Now the next tool that you can use is relating the line to yourself instead of to her.
This is very simple, it's very easy and it cuts through the clutter of the other messages she's getting.
All of the messages she's getting are like:
‘Hey, what's up?
How's it going?
You look cute.
Are you free this weekend?’
So just by cutting through that to begin with, you're already doing yourself a favor.
But relating a line personally to you is just a really sharp way to do that.
So I want to show you an example here of a girl that I matched with on tinder and her profile said, ‘Basically not looking for a one-night stand, I have enough furniture.’
So what I did is I made a line kind of related to me and I said, ‘Well, good news, I'm a lazy boy.’
So again, I'm just kind of taking something that most guys would see as a negative in our profile.
I don't do one-night stands and instead changing that by relating it to me to calling myself a lazy boy, which is a type of furniture.
Now here's the crazy thing.
That line really isn't groundbreaking, it's not the most witty thing in the world, it's not even a good pun but because I'm being personalized to myself and because I'm not doing what every single other person is doing with these messages.
You can see it still gets through to her.
And just goes to show you that lines that don't have a lot of width it's not even a very good pun.
These things can still do exceptionally well.
If you don't know what to send, man, just think of something about you in that moment and send it, that's still better than almost everything else that every other guy is sending.
And trust me, she understands, she knows that her profile has nothing in it.
She knows that she's not giving you a lot to work with.
So show her that that doesn't bother you you're still going to project your personality.
The Party Opener
The next tool we can use is called the Party Opener.
This is one of my favorites.
It's actually in spirit. It's actually dedicated to our new coach at Zirby, one of our new Thijs.
Thijs is a master with Tinder, with texting, with all forms of dating really and he sent me a few of these Tinder screenshots that he had.
I died laughing.
I had to show you guys them but they also illustrate a really, really great point which we'll get to in just a second.
So the whole point of the Party Opener is showing her, ‘Hey, I don't take this too seriously. I'm just here to have a good time.’
That vibe by the way it gets across.
Some guys will say, well, you know the girls that I keep seeing just think I want a relationship, how do I get the vibe of friends-with-benefits across how do I get the vibe of being more casual across?
This is one of the ways.
Showing that you're not taking it seriously and you're laid back, you're projecting your personality, all of that is happening with these lines that are just kind of goofy and crazy.
So let's look at some examples that were sent to me by Thijs one of our Zirby coaches and I'll show you what's the Party Openers and how to apply it.
So this girl first off the bat profile had not much in it.
Basically her height was listed and was listed as the wrong height, it was missed height or something.
Her profile photos were just selfies, nothing really there to pull from and Thijs basically said, “the one meter 57 in your profile did it for me. I always swiped midgets to the right.”
So she loves to humor and his brashness here and again it is just kind of a goofy crazy thing, but the important thing is it's not, ‘Hey, what's up?’
And it's not overly flattering. ‘You're so cute, or you really hot or you're sexy.’
Any of those things do not help you, but just being fun about it, man, that does.
So let's see another example here.
Using Humor in Your Messages
“Nice Albert grocery store bonus card, you know how to turn me on baby.”
So again, in one of her photos you can see that there's a bonus card for a local supermarket and he is making really just a joke about that.
Again, it's just showing her that he is a laid-back fun dude to be around who's not going to censor himself and it projects a casual vibe.
It has a lot of humor but there's also a sexual undertone in there and it's not gross, it just works.
So if you guys are taking Tinder too seriously.
Take an example from Thijs here and don't take it so seriously.
At Zirby we talk about authenticity but another thing that we don't talk about enough which is just as important is having a fun time and not taking like so seriously that you get offended by everything everyone does.
And you get upset at everything when a girl like doesn't respond to you for example or you put so much wait and emphasis on one conversation that it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Let go, just have fun with it, enjoy, project your real personality.
And as you can see with these conversations with Thijs, it definitely is effective.
So final one I'll show you this is actually my favorite, well catch me on Tinder, how bad that. So this is basically a clip from Dr. Phil that went viral.
Speaker 2: Did you say that the hoes are laughing?
Speaker 3: Yes.
Speaker 2: So the audience are a bunch of hoes?
Speaker 3: Yeah. [Inaudible] get me outside, how about that?
Speaker 2: Get you outside? What does that mean?
Speaker 3: What I did say.
And that was his opening message to her.
Again, it's fun, it's interesting, it's almost like he is the party and that's why it's called the party opener, because what's Thijs is showing all of these girls is, ‘Hey, I'm the life of the party.
If you hang out with me, we are going to have a fun time.’
That is a very good vibe to get across in your messages especially if you want something more casual, more physical.
Getting the Right Vibe Across
So with all that said these are prime examples of how to get that vibe across and overall through this video I've given you three ways to deal with that profile where there's just not any information there.
But selfies are boring and there's only her looks and you want to still make it work.
Well, now you can and hopefully this video is giving you all the tools to be able to do that.