How to Choose the Best Facebook Online Dating Group (+With Screenshots)

There's a group for everything on Facebook. Film photography, Free Trading, and even Tinder advice. With online dating, there are endless groups which promise to give you advice and feedback. The question is, what group do you choose?

 I want to talk a minute about the dating community specific to facebook afterall theres a good chance if youre reading this article it's because you are in some form part of some dating community on facebook. | Zirby

Who are the Guys in Online Dating Groups on Facebook?

From my own experience, most guys looking for dating advice are like you and me... regular guys looking to get a little advantage in the battle of the sexes.

  • We visit our family on Christmas.
  • We write letters to the ones we love.
  • We work really hard to put food on the table or keep our academic books cracked open until the break of dawn.
  • We put one foot in front of the other.

Yes, there are guys who sit at home in their parent's house, don't date, but sure have a lot of "helpful" Tinder tips to share with you.

But all in all, the point of all this is to say, we're normal guys who care about people other than ourselves. But for some reason, this gets lost in the many dating communities on Facebook.

Why Online Dating Groups on Facebook Matter.

Communities are important. That's a fact. Especially for Tinder.

When you are testing new Tinder pictures, writing a new bio, or sending out new conversation starters your more or less in a bubble. An echo chamber. 

You might adopt a bad strategy on your own and have no idea before you've wasted 50+ matches figuring it out. Or you might abandon a good strategy on Tinder because you didn't give it enough time to pan out.

When you're part of a group and able to share your screenshots of Tinder conversations, you can get feedback from a wide variety of guys to see what you're doing right, and what you're doing wrong. It's so you'll get more matches, and more responses.

That's really helpful.

But what's more important than being part of a community is making sure the community is a healthy one that pushes you to be a better man.

This is more than morals, too. This comes down to being result oriented. If you want better results, you need to surround yourself with guys who get results. 

Makes sense, right?

But when the community you're part of fosters negativity, over-exaggeration, and occasionally straight-up lies - you're not going to improve by participating in their dialog. 

A Good Facebook Group Focuses on Results Only.

I want to share a real post that happened just very recently that inspired me to write this post. I know, I know. I'm not a cool 19 year old that gets his kicks by railing on girls that reject his messages. 

 An example of a bad Tinder conversation.

An example of a bad Tinder conversation.


This is far from an epidemic, but if you think that Tindering skills like that will get you laid, then I have some news for you: think again.

There's a common mantra in the dating world called "Don't give a fuck." It makes sense. A lot of guys in the dating world have felt that their voice had been hushed (I sure did) and dating culture finally gave them the inner strength to not care about what other people think.

And, to a degree, that's great! But, what they're missing is the core point: "Don't give a fuck" doesn't mean "treat people like shit." It doesn't mean being indifferent about other peoples feelings.

Said best in the brilliant worded article, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, Mark Manson stated this sentiment well:

There’s absolutely nothing admirable or confident about indifference. People who are indifferent are lame and scared. They’re couch potatoes and internet trolls.

In fact, indifferent people often attempt to be indifferent because in reality they actually give too many fucks. They are afraid of the world and the repercussions of their own choices. Therefore, they make none.

They hide in a grey emotionless pit of their own making, self-absorbed and self-pitied, perpetually distracting themselves from this unfortunate thing demanding their time and energy called life
— Mark Manson

Practice What You Preach.

If you're in online dating groups on Facebook like I am, you're in them to be a more effective man. Well, good news, you can start right away.

I'm not recommending that you leave your groups or start flame wars. 

But when a post goes up in your community that degrades women, encourages passive-aggressive behavior, or puts the safety of a girl at risk (no censor blur?) just remember - that specific post is actively degrading the quality of your community.

And because we are not separate from the communities we are part of, it's degrading you as well.

When that happens, here's what you can do:

  • Call them out on it. You don't need to be aggressive about it, either. But there are voices of reason in the crowd.
 A good response on a Facebook dating group post.

With All That Said...

I don't want you leaving after this article suggesting that you should leave all your Facebook groups. And I certainly don't want you thinking that the Zirby Community is a mecca of heaven. 

Every community will have its problems - but as a member of it, it's in your hands to move things in the right direction and challenge content and people that drag it down into the shits.

Own Your Online Dating

The one good thing about communities is that you get unique perspectives and see how different people handle the same obstacles.

I mentioned before that we have a community here at Zirby. I'd love to welcome you to swing by and say hey.

It's a great place to get fresh ideas about online dating (considering its called Own Your Online Dating) but we focus on meeting women face to face and guys' wisdom as well.

I don't mean to brag, but there's a reason why over 1.5K guys are in the group making daily posts.. We try our best to be results-oriented, rather than ego-oriented. You can come and add to the conversation.

The Best Facebook Online Dating Group. 

Sorry not sorry, it is. Get feedback on your opening messages, profile, bio, photos, and even your text or tinder conversation screenshots. Join our 100% private group now for good vibes.