You might be struggling to choose the right photos, write a bio that gets her so excited that she messages you first, or picking the best photos for your 2,3,4,5,6 Tinder photo slot. To make matters worse, there are 3 MAJOR Tinder Profile mistakes that you must avoid if you want to convert those swipes in to dates. In this blog post, we'll reveal what this mistakes are and give you a game plan of what to do instead.
MISTAKE 1: Using 3rd Party Photo Ratings
If you're not getting enough matches, the problem is most likely your Tinder profile picture. If only there was a way to have strangers rate two of your pictures side by side so you know what works. Turns out, this does exist, but, is it actually helpful?
The answer: no. Apparently denying all logic, the reason is actually very simple: the people who are rating your pictures are not the demographic of people who are actually swiping on you.
Having strangers (usually mostly men!) who aren't interested in dating you either way tell you which one of your photos they like just doesn't work.
They are going to pick the photo that is the most disarming, inoffensive, or bland. But this isn't what you want girls swipe right on you on Tinder. You want her to be excited, intrigued, and turned on.
Here's a personal example: below I have two photos of me. The man bun photo (1) always tanks on 3rd party voting apps - and I get ribbed about that photo on my Facebook. Why? Because people love to hate on man-buns, so this "nice" photo of me (2) always gets chosen. But on Tinder? The Man bun is one of the most effective photos of myself I've ever used and the second photo barely gets matches.
Don't trust those rating apps. It's like asking a Vegan which burger they like more. Stick within your demographic.
MISTAKE 2: Having a Tinder Bio That Doesn't Actually Add Anything
Take a look at this Tinder bio from one of the guys in our private Own Your Online Dating Facebook group. Think in your mind three words that represent him. Ready?
What'd you come up with? Here are my three words: insecure, arrogant, unfunny. The crazy part is that this guy is anything but those three things. But his Tinder bio paints him like that. How many women who read that bio do you think will want to meet up with him?
This is an extreme example. He was trying to be sarcastic and have fun, but fell on his face. But aside from that, does his bio actually add anything that tells her his ambitions, passions, or interests? Does it excite her, and get her interested in meeting up?
This is such a common Tinder mistakes with bios. Your bio has a purpose: giving her a sneak peak in to who you are. You need to take advantage of that, not just write a few jokes... successful or not.
MISTAKE 3: NOT DIVERSIFYING YOUR PHOTOS
If you didn't know already: every one of your Tinder photos has a specific goal that it should fulfill. Photo 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6 should all be different, and used in a strategic way to show a wide breath and highlight the best aspects of yourself.
Let's take a look at a Tinder profile of someone who doesn't do this at all, and the consequences he sows for himself.
This looks like a friendly guy who... has a few friends (or co-workers?) and canoes sometimes. That's pretty much the only information we're getting about him. The reason? He's not showing us more!
Instead of highlighting all the best, and varied, aspects of himself he's instead opted to have three Tinder photos of himself that are basically the exact same: headshot selfies.
Now, we could get in to an entire blog post about just how and why selfies are so bad for your Tinder profile, but we'll have to hold off on that for awhile.
For now, it's important to understand that on Tinder every picture should have it's place. Avoid duplicating the same type of photos, and full in other types. You widen your potential audience of women who would have swiped left on you, until she saw a photo of you cooking. You never know what type of image will get a woman excited about you, so avoid duplication. They do nothing to help.
What actually WORKS for your Tinder Profile?
In this article we've covered 3 major, and common, tinder profile mistakes you might be making. But all this begs the question:
- What DOES work for your Tinder profile picture? How do you KNOW what will work without wasting swipes?
- How can you write a bio that adds to your profile, instead of detracting or just staying neutral?
- Is there a step by step guide you should follow for your 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, and 6th Tinder photo?
Most importantly, is there a way to build a Tinder profile that works for you, and get feedback from from other guys who are doing the same? You already know where I'm going with this.
I created a FREE 4 Day Challenge that will do all of this and more.
Over the course of 4 days you'll get an email every morning with a video covering one aspect of your Tinder profile. Each day you'll also have an assignment to implement what we talk about.
While you go through the 4 Day Challenge you'll have access to our 100% Private Facebook group so you can post your challenges and get feedback.
It's a great resource for updating your Tinder Profile, Tinder Photos, and Tinder bio, and it's free. You can join the challenge here.